Spanking is one of the most popular activities in the kinky community. It’s typically one of the very first activities that beginners are willing to try when they get their first kinky itch. Why? Well, we could discuss the dominance you display when you push someone face first into a mattress to slap their ass; We could talk about the thrill you feel when pulling a bad girl/boy over your lap for punishment; But let’s be honest. We like spanking because we like butts. And who wouldn’t want an excuse to play with butts? Here we are going to do our very best to give you a decent run down on spanking.

Anatomy

Not all body parts are created equal when it comes to spanking, so it’s important to know where to hit. No-No Zones include the tailbone, hop bones, backs of the knees, and the lower back. It doesn’t make you Sexy Evil McDom Pants when you strike these areas, it just makes you a jerk because hitting these areas can cause actual damage  Finding the No-No zones doesn’t have to be a clinical examination. (Although it certainly could be, if that’s what you’re into!) Just be sure to familiarize yourself with the anatomy of the butt you want to hit before you actually start hitting so as to avoid leaving a mark on their medical bill instead of on their memory.

Warm Up

Once you’ve figured out where not to hit, you need to figure out where to hit and how to hit it. The warm up is important. It’s the process of starting off slowly with a firm massage of the buttocks or soft slap. Maybe even start off with a spanking over the underwear before moving on to direct skin slapping. Warming up is really important because it increases the amount of blood that’s flowing in the area you want to strike. This means that the spanking can last longer, will be more pleasurable, and will end with less bruising due to the squishy cushion those blood vessels provide when adequately warm.

The Sweet Spot

Now you may be wondering which areas you should be warming up. The simple answer is: Any area you plan on smacking. Standard spanking procedure involves a slow and stead increase in intensity from a soft warm up to the heavy hitting. It’s also good to intersperse the harsh spankings with some lighter slaps or maybe even a bit of a massage. You have to toe the line as soft spankings can be boring but hardcore spankings can’t last. Talk to your partner about using the 1-10 pain scale (Where 1 is virtually nothing and 10 is the worst pain ever felt)S and try to maintain an intensity between 5 and 8 for the most intense portion of your session. Always remember that communication is key. Listen to your partners reactions and watch their body language to increase the amount of time you get to spend watching her butt jiggle.

Aftercare

Once your fun is over, your job is not yet done. Aftercare is how partners or players reconnect after intense session, or maybe even how they keep the scene going. You may want to cuddle with your submissive while you discuss the recent events. Or maybe you want to eat milk and cookies together. It’s a personal thing. If you’re done playing and you’re moving on to aftercare in order to bring things back to reality, it may be a good idea to discuss what you each enjoyed in the session or mention how much you appreciated their participation. However, if you’re still planning on playing and you want to keep your dom pants on, you could discuss what your partner did wrong to deserve the spanking or how your behaviour will be better in the future.

Most importantly; Have fun and be safe!