Kink is all about being open minded. We think some of the best advice we can give you is that if you find you do not like something move on – but always be open to new experiences. We know it is easy to get freaked out by new experiences, and kink encompasses a wide range of likes from mild to extreme.
The more you explore the more open minded you will become. You may find you have some fetishes you did not realize you had and you will find that some fetishes don’t interest you at all.
Oh yes, welcome to the word fetish! Here’s a definition:
Fetish
noun [C] (INTEREST) /ˈfet.ɪʃ/ US /ˈfet̬-/
› a sexual interest in an object or a part of the body other than the sexual organs:
a rubber/foot fetish
He has a fetish about/for high heels.
› an activity or object that you are so interested in that you spend an unreasonable amount of time thinking about it or doing it:
She makes a fetish of organization – it’s quite obsessive.
He has a fetish for/about cleanliness.
Most people have heard the words “kink” or “kinky”, but the word “fetish” has become more of a taboo and is often viewed in a negative light. Remember to stay open minded! Each person is different. We all have different things that interest us, and different things that turn us on. Fetishes are just our more intense interests. There’s nothing taboo about them!
There’s really nothing to be scared of when discussing kinks or fetishes. You may just be getting started in your exploration of kink, but you’ll be surprised with how far you can go after reading a few of the types that we’ll be discussing. A few of the most popular fetishes are spanking, bondage, domination, submission, and sadomasochism. Pretty much anything that crosses the borderline of vanilla sex. If you’ve never heard of vanilla sex, here’s a little help…
Vanilla sex or conventional sex is used to describe standard or conventional sexual behavior without the addition of any kink or fetish. The term comes from vanilla as a basic flavoring for ice cream, meaning it’s only an ordinary, mundane and plain thing. You’ve probably heard conversations in TV shows/movies wherein one dislikes being called a “vanilla” because it connotes being a bore. Yes, boring.
Now, we aren’t trying to degrade vanilla sex or persuade you and your partner to get your hands dirty with all kinds of kinks and fetishes. But if you are both open to push your limits and explore the kinky world, you could discover many things that you both never knew you liked. Nothing spices up the love life like a bit of sexual exploration. Besides, how are you supposed to know what you like if you’ve never tried it?
As we delve further into what different fetishes there are, you need to remain open minded. There is such a wide range of different kinks and fetishes to explore! Remember that you don’t have to like everything. Keep exploring and keep an open mind. We’re here to help you figure out what does it for you and to explain some of what you can expect to find.
So, let’s keep those fantasies rolling and turn them into reality. Being comfortable and open with your partner is very vital for you take the first step. You can boost the trust and intimacy in the relationship if you open up those desires and reach out to your partner. Start with small things. Don’t quickly fill your mind with the thoughts of pain or evil that may come with society’s ideas of kink and fetish.
